There are times where not all of the relationship advice, relationship counseling, or relationship therapy in the world can help a failing relationship. Even if a couple starts out strong and sure that they will be together forever, sometimes things happen in life to lead to the relationship falling apart anyway. However, sometimes if you know what the main threats to a relationship are, it can help you stop them from destroying your next one.
Loss of Affection
In the beginning it seems like you’ll love your partner forever. You can’t imagine a moment without them and when you think of the future they play a big part of it. But no matter how much you love each other at this moment, that love can change over time. It may fade once the initial attraction has worn off and you grow to know their personality and habits more. It is also possible that you (or your partner) could find someone else that you care about more. Love can change and what was a passionate and exciting affection in the beginning may turn out to be more of a friendship or even an indifference in the end.
Nothing can hurt a relationship quite like financial trouble. When you become life partners with someone and expect them to help pay bills, buy food, and take care of other monetary responsibilities, only to have them fail to keep up their part of the deal, it can put a lot of strain on your relationship. Arguments, hurt feelings, disappointments, and constant stress can lead to to the relationship breaking up in the end. Or it can lead to you or your partner seeking affection elsewhere from someone you have no stressful issues with, which will also lead to the end of the relationship.
Different Wants and Needs
When you first meet someone you are at a certain point in your life where you may want the same things that they do. You might both be young and unready for marriage and kids and a house in the suburbs. You may want to travel, or focus on your career, or go back to/continue with school. As time goes on your wants and needs may change. You may decide you’re ready for a baby or to settle down in one city or to try a new career path. And while it would be great to have a partner in life whose wants and needs change to agree with yours, that doesn’t always happen. So sometimes, even if love is still there, the relationship will break up so that you can find someone who shares your new desires in life.